The thoughtless actions of these Parents causes more damage than what’s reported

As a single father, I am truly upset at some of the reported actions of parents who act long before they think.  It makes those like me who work hard at raising my children to respect another and only using violence to protect themselves feel as though I may be the only one teaching this.  I know that is not the case but rarely do we ever hear or see anything about the decent parents who know that raising children is the most frustrating and yet rewarding job in the world.  This is just one of the indirect damage caused by thoughtless parents.

I rail against ignorant when it comes to parenting and choices some make especially stories like this one reported by CNN Wire Staff titled California mother arrested for encouraging son to fight where this lady promoted violence as a solution in her own front yard and was the primary cheerleader while children were hurt and injured.  Her callous actions project a message that it’s okay to settle thing with your fists and did nothing to help the children learn a much better way to settle grievances.  When a male neighbor finally stepped in to put an end to the fighting his criticism was reported as him saying "Lady, you're letting them fight like this? What kind of example are you, lady?" the man asks.”  Her reply which proves some people should never have any children was "I don't care," the woman replies.”  She is supposed to be the adult and that was her child, so if she doesn’t care then who will?

Or this story about a mother who was so involved with a boy 23 years her junior that she could not see the harm that was coming to these children before it was too late and a 17 month of child now “suffering broken ribs and a ruptured spleen, among other injuries”.  According to the article written by Joseph Goldstein for the New York Times titled Arrest Made in Beating of a Child in Brooklyn, A longtime friend of Ms. Cummings (the foster parent) said that he had heard Mr. Oliver (foster parent’s 19 year old boyfriend) speak about the need to make the boy tougher.  Mike Bee (the friend) “said that when he expressed concern about Mr. Oliver’s attitude to Ms. Cummings, she told him “he’s good to my kids.”  For anyone who has the responsibility of another life or in her case lives in their hands, it is prudent to be safe than sorry.  Instead of dismissing her friends concern, shoe should have begun taking precautions.  Now this child has to live with the scars of surgery but more important the scars that the actions of her boyfriend for the rest of his life.  Not to mention the indirect effect that it may have on the two girls who also live in the home.

While both of these makes my skin crawl, the worst one so far has been this article written by Aaron Cooper for CNN titled Affidavit: Texas girl's assault recorded on cell phones.  This one is best explained in the first paragraph of this story.  An alleged sexual assault of a Texas girl involving nearly 20 people was recorded on cell phones, and a video of the alleged incident was circulating among students in her school district, according to court documents obtained Tuesday.  As of Monday, 13 adults and five juveniles had been arrested as part of the investigation, authorities said. A defense attorney for one of the suspects told CNN affiliate KPRC that the number of suspects could increase.  "I don't know the exact number of people involved," James Evans said. "I've heard as many as 28 or more."  The girl was under the age of 14.  I am bothered by the acts of the juveniles in this story but am more disturbed by the 13 adults who did not act as adults.  The article reports “three of the suspects picked her up and took her to one residence where a fourth suspect lived. The fourth suspect told her to take her clothes off, she said, adding that "he would have some girls 'beat her up' or she would not be taken back to her residence if she did not comply." the affidavit said.”  In other words, this girl was bullied into having sex with all these people and if this is not a reason to keep a better eye on the events happening in your child’s life, I don’t know what is.  Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

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