Parents are the number one killer of kid’s ability to dream
This
thought occurred to me as I was looking at answering yes to all of my youngest
daughter’s recent requests. I surmised that
since she has already gone through things that no child should ever have to
endure at such a young age, that saying yes would make her feel and know that
she was loved and appreciated. It wasn’t
until she kept asking for one thing after another that it dawned on me that
maybe what I was doing was not actually for her but only to make myself feel
better. I dawned upon me that I was
actually doing her more harm than good by saying yes to everything.
I
began to truly think about that concept of giving in makes them give up and the
more I thought about it the more it began to make sense and possibly explain why
kids today have little or no respect for anything or anyone. The primary reason is the lack of a good
example set by their parents, guardians or caretakers but a large factor
appears to be our desire to try and make things better for them by attempting
to say yes instead of saying no.
When
you say yes, the kid’s desire for whatever they were asking is fed and there is
no other need to become creative and dream up a way to achieve that goal. When you say no, the exact opposite happens
and they begin to conjure up a way to maybe not get what they asked for in the
beginning but get that consolation prize.
Their minds begin to kick into gear and they do something many kids fail
or refuse to do, think. Some may call
this conniving or manipulation but if it makes them search for a solution to a
problem, they tend to make that a habit and perform this same task each and every time they are presented with a problem instead of just blaming the outcome
of a rash decision on someone else or allowing another person to decide for
them. You ask and pray for your child to
be independent but as parents, guardians and caretakers of these very same
children, we stand to be the ones who kill that side of their creativity by
either giving in or failing/refusing to nurture it.
When
you do not have or cannot seem to poses something, you dream of the day that
you can and when you find information which will lead you in the direction of
achieving this brass ring, you work out ways to make it happen. If you are given everything you may every
want then you have no reason to exercise that part of your brain that houses
creativity. You have no reason to chase
that dream. All journey’s must begin
with that first step and creative people all began with a dream.
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