Why Women Are More Attracted to A Married Man Than A Single One

was on the phone with my girlfriend and she was telling me about one of her closest friends.  I listen to her story and tried to help the situation from a male’s prospective.  After hanging up the phone, it occurred to me why some women may be more attracted to married or involved men than the single ones.

One of the main reasons I think is jealousy.  Men give off this certain odor or vibe when they are truly committed to a relationship.   They no longer ogle every woman that enters within eye range nor do they exude that slobbering-at-the-mouth type aroma when any woman says hi to him.  It’s the type of attitude which enjoys a conversation with another woman without spending all that time looking down her blouse may cause some  women to feel more respected instead of a sex-object.  This enjoyment soon becomes something else even though they know or soon learn that he is involved or married.  After making a conscientious decision to ignore the fact of him being involved or married, she becomes jealous of what this other woman has and may become driven to have that herself.

Another, I believe, is the right of aggression.  In the beginning the involved or married man tends to show a little shyness and with that many times comes an attentiveness that some women have never or rarely often experienced.  While most men view this as a sign of weakness from the male, some women view it as sensitivity.  Especially if they happen to overhear him saying those three (3) words in a crowd of men, I Love You or see him buying a special gift for a special someone.  Because the male does remember that he is involved or married the shyness seems to give some women the authority to become aggressive in her pursuit of them.  Only after the male chooses to forget about his commitment to his partner does this right to aggression felt slowly melt away.

Ask the male why and you may get the tried and true tale of his partner don’t understand him.  This is not the truth in all cases.  While many men are determining whether to cheat, the main thought running through their heads is their ability to get away with it.  If he has a strong suspition that he can avoid detection, the shyness fades and the game is on.  The male may spend a few seconds thinking about what he is about to do and a lifetime regretting it when he does.  It appears that for most men its okay for them to sneak around but they get so vengeful and hostile when it happens to them.

Ask most women why they choose involved or married men and the most constant answer is that they are safe and no commitment is necessary but watch the evolution of the relationship and another answer comes clear.  If the relationship is not ended after the women loses their right to aggression, jealousy remains and is re-enforced by the knowledge that she stole him and she is determined not to let him get stolen from her.  The really sad part is that for men to maintain a secondary relationship outside of their primary one takes a skill that we have not mastered and when it blows up, it takes nearly everything around it.  Before any one gets involved with another person who is already involved or married, they need to ask themselves this question.  If he cheated on her with you, what will stop him from cheating on you with another?